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How to Be a Good Single Mom

by | Apr 4, 2024 | 0 comments

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Are you worried about being a good single mom?

Being a single mom is hard.

Even if you have a co-parent, you are the only person in your home responsible for your kiddo.

That can definitely be overwhelming.

Throughout my daughter’s life, I’ve had little to no support from my co-parent.

As soon as she was born, I became 100% responsible for her.

While this definitely worked in my favor, it’s also stressful.

And on top of all that responsibility is the lingering fear that I’m a shitty mom.

I still struggle with that, but I also worked hard to change my mindset and gain perspective on my situation.

Just by worrying whether or not I am a good mom, I’m a good mom.

And just by reading this post and asking yourself if you are a good mom, you are a good mom too.

But if that’s not enough to convince you, let’s talk about what it takes to be a good single mother:

Good Single Mother Meaning

Let’s get one thing out of the way before we dig in on how to be a good single mom:

A good single mom is not a happy mother who loves life every moment of every day.

A good single mom is someone who recognizes the reality of solo parenting and works through the responsibilities of parenthood with resilience, love, and determination, despite the absence of a partner.

In her household, she is the sole provider, nurturer, and guiding force in her child’s life.

A good single mother doesn’t let her circumstances define her. Instead, she rises above them, showing strength, resourcefulness, and dedication to her kiddos.

And a good single mother doesn’t stress herself out trying to be perfect!

Qualities of a Good Single Mother

A good single mom is resilient in the face of challenges. Whether it’s trying to manage financial resources or co-parent with a narcissist, she faces obstacles head-on, learns from setbacks, and doesn’t allow adversity to define her child’s future.

She’s compassionate, both to herself and to others. She understands the importance of empathy and kindness in nurturing her child’s emotional well-being.

Flexibility is also key for a single mother. Adapting to changing circumstances and being open to new solutions creates an environment in which everyone can thrive, even when life becomes unpredictable.

Lastly, a good single mom does what she can to take care of herself. Self-care isn’t selfish. It allows her to recharge, maintain her well-being, and be fully present for her child.

How to Be a Good Single Mom

I’m sure if you really think about the qualities of a good single mom I listed above, you’ll find you’re already there!

But sometimes, awesome single moms need some guidance, so here are some ways you can be the best single mom you can be:

Know That You Are Enough

It’s important that you understand that you are capable and worthy! Even if you are facing challenges.

Whether you chose to be a single mom or just ended up in this situation, you have the strength and instincts to be an amazing parent.

Be Present With Your Child

Quality time with your child is invaluable, so make sure you are putting away distractions so you can actively engage with them.

This doesn’t mean you have to swear off Facebook or give up time to yourself! Just make sure you are prioritizing conversation, play, and shared activities with your kiddo.

Model Being Imperfect

It’s okay not to have all of the answers or to make mistakes – and it’s important that your child learns this too.

By showing your child how to be resilient in the face of imperfection, you are teaching them valuable lessons about perseverance and self-acceptance.

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

As a single mom, you’re going to run into challenges, and you’re going to struggle. Try to focus on the bigger picture and avoid getting bogged down my minor issues.

Choose your battles wisely and spend your energy on what really matters for your child’s well-being and development.

See Mistakes as Learning Opportunities

As a single mom, you’re also going to make mistakes – don’t beat yourself up about them!

View mistakes as learning opportunities for growth, both for you and your kiddo. Use them as teachable moments to build resiliency.

Give Yourself a Break

Even though your child is your first priority, being a single mother is overwhelming.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help and carve out time for self-care so you can recharge and destress.

What Can You Do If Being a Single Mother Makes You Depressed and Angry?

As a single parent, you’re not going to be a mother who loves life 24/7. It’s tough, and sometimes it can lead to feelings of anger or depression.

This is completely normal!

But it’s also something that needs to be addressed. The sooner you can relieve these feelings, the more your children will have a happy mother.

Here are some ways you can deal with the anger and depression:

Seek Support from Friends, Family, or a Therapist

Don’t hesitate to reach out for support when you’re feeling overwhelmed. You can confide in a friend, lean on your family, or speak to a professional.

Being a single mom doesn’t mean you’re alone! Make sure you get the help you need.

Connect With Other Single Moms

Building a support network of single moms can be a huge source of comfort and empowerment. You can share experiences, advice, and encouragement.

This can help with feelings of isolation and loneliness. It can also give you some valuable perspective on being a single mom.

Try to hook up with single moms in your area (I know how bad that sounds, lol) or find an online group.

Find Healthy Ways to Express Your Feelings

It’s important that you acknowledge and process your emotions in a healthy way – don’t ignore them!

You can try journaling, exercise, or other creative outlets to let off some steam.

Finding constructive ways to express yourself can help release pent-up emotions and help with your emotional well-being.

Practice Gratitude and Mindfulness

I know these are a couple of buzzwords, but gratitude and mindfulness are truly healthy activities that can help with the stress of being a single mom.

Cultivate a mindset of gratitude by focusing on the positives, no matter how small. You can also do mindfulness practices, like meditation, to help you stay grounded and centered.

Forgive Yourself

Be gentle with yourself and let go of self-judgment. It doesn’t matter why you’re in this situation – what matters is that you are doing the best you can!

It’s okay to have bad days and you don’t have to be perfect. No single mom is.

You Are a Strong Single Mother!

You’re going to have days when you don’t believe that, but it will always be true!

Being a good single mom takes strength, compassion, and resilience.

Remember that you are enough, you’re doing a great job, and you can always ask for help if you need it.

How do you deal with being a single mom? Share your story in the comments!

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