Parallel Parenting

Is Your Co-Parent Manipulating the Visitation Schedule? 10 Tips

Are you tired of your ex manipulating the visitation schedule? I mean, for god’s sake, why are they messing around with time with their child? If you’re dealing with a narcissistic co-parent, it’s because they want control. It’s as simple as that. But when your ex...

Understanding Counter-Parenting: Definition and Impact

Parenting is hard enough without having someone trying to manipulate and undermine everything you do. This is what can happen when you are co-parenting with a narcissist. Counter-parenting is exactly as it sounds: Your ex intentionally and actively works against your...

5 Signs of a Bitter Baby Daddy & What To Do

Are you dealing with a difficult co-parent? Are they just a bitter baby daddy? Whether you’re co-parenting with your ex or simply trying to maintain a civil relationship for the sake of your child, it’s important to recognize the signs of bitterness early on. Just...

Co-Parenting a Child with ADHD: How to Make It Easier

Co-parenting can present some unique challenges, so I can just imagine what it’s like when your child has ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder). Now, I’m going to preface this article by saying that I have no personal experience parenting a child with ADHD....

No-Contact Co-Parenting: How To Do It

Are you ready to put a restraining order on your ex? Man, I wish it was that easy. But it’s hard to cut all contact with someone you’re supposed to be co-parenting with. And narcissists know this and will weaponize co-parenting to make their ex-partners’ lives hell....

9 Tips for Peaceful Co-Parenting With a Narcissist

Is peaceful co-parenting even possible with a narcissist? Yeah, I knew that’d be the first thing you asked. When it comes to successful co-parenting with a narcissist, the first thing you need to do is manage your expectations. If the situation is bad, it’s never...

What Is Bad Co-Parenting? 9 Signs to Look For

Shared parenting is hard - but how do you know if you’re dealing with a bad co-parent or just someone who is just annoying? Sometimes we have to suck it up and deal with annoying. If we addressed everything our ex did that was annoying, we’d probably die from...

Successful Parallel Parenting: Child-Centered Support Strategies

If you know anything about parallel parenting, it seems like a magic wand solution when you’re dealing with manipulative and inappropriate co-parenting. And while I’m going to talk about successful parallel parenting, I want you to know that success does not mean...

How Co-Parenting Counseling Can Help in High Conflict Situations

Are you struggling to co-parent with your ex-partner? Have you tried being reasonable and civil but they continue to act manipulative and controlling? I know how frustrating it can be and what it’s like to feel like there is no support or solution. Family court will...

Co-Parenting at Christmas: Splitting Christmas With Your Ex

As if the holidays aren’t stressful enough, the last thing you want is to deal with a difficult co-parent! But, alas, the holiday season is the perfect time for narcissistic exes to pull shenanigans just to make things difficult. I know that being a single parent at...

10 Co-Parenting Conflict Resolution Techniques

Are you living in a co-parenting nightmare? I mean the kind of situation where you’re constantly in conflict with your ex over everything from when your kids should be dropped off to what kind of shoes they wear. There are always residual hard feelings after a divorce...

The 8 Benefits of Parallel Parenting After Divorce

In this post, I want to talk to you about an important topic that has made a significant difference in my life as a parent: parallel parenting. Maybe you've heard of it before, or maybe it's a new concept for you. Either way, I want to share with you some of the...

7 Common Parallel Parenting Plan Mistakes (And How to Avoid Them)

Welcome to the world of parallel parenting - a journey that's like navigating through a maze with a blindfold on. When you're divorced or dealing with co-parenting challenges, knowing what to do doesn't always come easy. I've been there! While trying to co-parent with...

Parallel Parenting With a Narcissist: The Complete Guide

Co-parenting can be challenging under the best of circumstances, but when you find yourself co-parenting with a narcissist or toxic ex, the difficulties can escalate to a whole new level. And when you throw that on top of trying to manage your kids as a single parent,...

6 Ways to Deal with a High-Conflict Co-Parent

Are you dealing with a high-conflict co-parent? Trust me, I know how difficult that can be. You try and approach your co-parent with understanding and respect, but you are met with disdain and nonsense. We could sit around all day trying to figure out why your ex acts...

Parallel Parenting Tips: Do’s and Don’ts

Parallel parenting is an amazing tool if you are co-parenting with a narcissist, but there are right ways and wrong ways of doing it. This approach is all about focusing on what’s best for your child while maintaining your sanity. When done right, parallel parenting...

Parallel Parenting Communication Strategies: How to Avoid Conflict

Co-parenting with a narcissist is incredibly challenging, especially when you have to talk to them. It’s like trying to reason with a two-year-old who dropped their ice cream cone at the same time their balloon floated away. Oh, and they were also told no more YouTube...

Co-Parenting Discipline with a Resistant Ex-Partner: 12 Tips

Are you trying to co-parent with a difficult ex, and you seem to argue about everything, especially co-parenting discipline? While every parent is entitled to discipline in their own way, it can be extremely frustrating when your ex either disciplines differently just...

Co-Parenting Pick-Ups and Drop-Offs Without Conflict

If you've tried co-parenting pick-ups and drop-offs with a narcissist or toxic ex-partner, then you know how challenging this can be. What a perfect time for the narcissist to cause trouble! The tension, conflict, and potential for emotional distress during these...

Effective and Assertive Parallel Parenting

Parallel parenting can be a challenging journey, especially dealing with a narcissistic ex (or an ex that is just plain difficult). I mean, you're probably parallel parenting because the situation is challenging, but there's a lot involved when it comes to reducing...

10 Tips for Communicating While Co-Parenting

Does communicating with your ex about your kids make you feel like you're pulling teeth? Does every question you ask turn into a full-blown argument? Unless your separation is perfectly amicable, you are likely going run into struggles while co-parenting - especially...

Parallel Parenting: The Role of Written Communication

If there was one thing I learned early on in my experience trying to co-parent with someone who is narcissistic, it was that written communication was the way to go. Every phone conversation ended in a blow-out, and face-to-face communication was downright...

How to Have Difficult Conversations When Co-Parenting

Co-parenting can be challenging even in the best of circumstances, but when you're dealing with a difficult ex-partner, it can feel like an uphill battle. However, effective communication and conflict resolution are key to successful co-parenting. Especially when...

How To Parallel Parent With Special Needs Children

When I was working on the second edition of my book You Can't Co-Parent With a Narcissist: A Guide to Parallel Parenting, I reached out to this community and asked if there was anything more I could include, and there were a few requests for how to parallel parent...

How to Establish and Communicate Boundaries to a Toxic Co-Parent

When I wrote the first edition of my book, You Can't Co-Parent With a Narcissist: A Guide to Parallel Parenting, I kind of skimmed over the concept of boundaries. It wasn't that I didn't think boundaries were important - at the time, I just didn't know what kind of...

Parallel Parenting: 11 Types of Boundaries

As the author of the book You Can't Co-Parent With a Narcissist: A Guide to Parallel Parenting, I have explored the intricate dynamics of parallel parenting, a valuable approach for separated or divorced parents facing high-conflict situations. Parallel parenting...

How to Handle Violated Boundaries When Co-Parenting

As someone who has delved deeply into the complexities of co-parenting and wrote a book on parallel parenting, I understand that maintaining clear boundaries is pivotal for the well-being of both parents and children. Co-parenting after a separation can be...

Conflicted Co-Parenting: Why Setting Boundaries is Important

Are you struggling to establish boundaries with your ex while co-parenting? If your ex is narcissistic, or a huge asshole, then they probably overstep your boundaries on purpose just to exert control and piss you off. When I wrote the first edition of my book, one...

How to Implement a Parallel Parenting Plan

Co-parenting after a separation or divorce can be one of life's most intricate balancing acts, often entailing a myriad of emotions, logistics, and considerations. For those of us who have embarked on this journey with a particularly challenging ex-partner, the...

Conflicted Co-Parenting: Creating a Parallel Parenting Plan

Divorce and separation can cause some real challenges, especially when there are children involved. High emotions and bad feelings can lead to conflict or differences in parenting styles. Whether that's all temporary or your ex purposely makes things difficult, there...

How to Set Up a Parallel Parenting Plan

Divorce or separation can be a tumultuous journey, especially when children are involved As you navigate this challenging path, it's crucial to find a co-parenting arrangement that not only supports your children's well-being but also minimizes the potential for...

Conflicted Co-Parenting: Different Parenting Styles

Co-parenting, the journey of raising a child together after a separation or divorce, is a remarkable chance for children to receive the love and support of both parents. As someone who has personally dealt with co-parenting conflicts, I understand the emotional...

How to Make an Effective Co-Parenting Agreement

Co-parenting can be a challenging journey, but having a well-crafted co-parenting agreement can help ease the process and foster a positive environment for both parents and children. As someone who has experienced the ups and downs of co-parenting, I understand the...

Parallel Parenting in the Summer

The summer season brings warmth, sunshine, and a break from school for children. For co-parents, it also means navigating the challenges of creating a seamless summer custody schedule while ensuring a positive and enjoyable experience for their children. Is your ex...

Co-Parenting Versus Parallel Parenting: What You Need to Know

Divorce and separation can be tough on everyone, especially children. When parents separate, it can be challenging to navigate co-parenting, especially if one of the parents is a narcissist. In some cases, co-parenting isn't possible due to high levels of conflict and...

How to Communicate in a Parallel Parenting Arrangement

Are you having a hard time communicating with your ex while trying to parallel parent your children? This can be frustrating and make it hard for you to co-parent effectively, especially if you are trying to co-parent with a narcissist or just a difficult ex. You may...

How to Handle Parenting Plan Sabotage

Is your co-parent sabotaging your parenting time? Are they consistently manipulating the parenting plan? Having a parenting plan is great for co-parents who want to get along for the sake of their child. Drawing from my experience and insights shared in my book about...

8 Books About Parallel Parenting You Need to Read

Do you want to learn more about parallel parenting with a narcissist? Are you confused about the difference between parallel parenting and co-parenting? I love writing for this blog and providing you with as much information as I can on parallel parenting, toxic...

Narcissistic Parental Alienation: What Can You Do?

When it comes to parenting with a narcissistic ex, your child can, unfortunately, get thrown into the middle of the conflict. Sometimes, one parent will use the child by turning them against the other parent. In extreme cases, this is called "parental alienation" and...

6 Conflicted Co-Parenting Challenges (And How to Deal With Them)

Are you dealing with conflicted co-parenting? Is your ex making it difficult while you are trying to parent your child? Unfortunately, it seems like this is a common issue nowadays, but don’t worry! As difficult as your toxic co-parent may be, there are ways you can...

Parallel Parenting 101: How to Make It Work

Are you banging your head against the wall trying to figure out how to parent with a toxic ex??? I've been there, and I know how frustrating and upsetting the whole ordeal can be! But once I figured out I was dealing with a toxic ex, I started to learn about how to...

How to Set Boundaries When Parenting With a Toxic Ex

When it comes to parenting with a toxic ex, it's unlikely that you will find yourself in a co-parenting situation. Co-parenting involves respect and communication, which are two things toxic people usually lack. Because they lack...

How to Sort Out Co-Parenting With a Narcissist

So you’ve figured out that you are co-parenting with a narcissist. Congratulations! And I don’t mean that sarcastically. Congratulations on realizing the type of person you are dealing with. This is the first step in healing and minimizing conflict. It was when I...

10 Signs That Your Ex is a Toxic Parent

You've broken up with your partner, and there is a child involved. In a lot of (happy) situations, the initial feelings of bitterness and anger tend to dissipate as both parents, and their child, settle into the new family...

How to Prepare for a Child Custody Battle

Are you facing a child custody battle? Whether or not you have legal representation, understanding what custody is and what the different types of custody are is crucial in preparing to determine the best custodial situation for your family. When I got involved with...

How to Parent Your Child When Your Ex is Toxic

Recently, I received a comment on one of my posts that caught my attention. It was a concern involving how to potty train and discipline your little one when your toxic ex refuses to be on the same page. I, fortunately, did not...

Supporting Your Children

Is Your Co-Parent Manipulating the Visitation Schedule? 10 Tips

Are you tired of your ex manipulating the visitation schedule? I mean, for god’s sake, why are they messing around with time with their child? If you’re dealing with a narcissistic co-parent, it’s because they want control. It’s as simple as that. But when your ex...

6 Ways to Ignore a Narcissist

What happens when you starve a fire of oxygen? That’s right. It dies. Dealing with a narcissist is kind of the same thing - just as oxygen fuels a fire, attention and reaction fuel a narcissist’s manipulative behavior. Take away the attention they crave and you can...

How to Be a Good Single Mom

Are you worried about being a good single mom? Being a single mom is hard. Even if you have a co-parent, you are the only person in your home responsible for your kiddo. That can definitely be overwhelming. Throughout my daughter’s life, I’ve had little to no support...

Understanding Counter-Parenting: Definition and Impact

Parenting is hard enough without having someone trying to manipulate and undermine everything you do. This is what can happen when you are co-parenting with a narcissist. Counter-parenting is exactly as it sounds: Your ex intentionally and actively works against your...

Do Narcissists Target Single Moms?

Dating as a single mom is fucking hard. Not only do we have to figure out how to get out there and meet people, then we have to worry about the type of people we’re letting in. And if you’ve ever been in a relationship with a narcissist, that adds a layer of fear to...

5 Signs of a Bitter Baby Daddy & What To Do

Are you dealing with a difficult co-parent? Are they just a bitter baby daddy? Whether you’re co-parenting with your ex or simply trying to maintain a civil relationship for the sake of your child, it’s important to recognize the signs of bitterness early on. Just...

Co-Parenting a Child with ADHD: How to Make It Easier

Co-parenting can present some unique challenges, so I can just imagine what it’s like when your child has ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder). Now, I’m going to preface this article by saying that I have no personal experience parenting a child with ADHD....

Narcissism vs Confidence: Are We Getting Them Mixed Up?

When someone comes off as a confident individual, it can be easy to interpret their behaviors as narcissistic. Maybe they brag or constantly demand attention. Perhaps they like to talk about themselves and show off. But this doesn’t make someone a narcissist....

No-Contact Co-Parenting: How To Do It

Are you ready to put a restraining order on your ex? Man, I wish it was that easy. But it’s hard to cut all contact with someone you’re supposed to be co-parenting with. And narcissists know this and will weaponize co-parenting to make their ex-partners’ lives hell....

Dating as a Single Mom (When Your Co-Parent is Crazy)

As a single mom, it’s hard enough to meet new people and get yourself into a dating situation. Then your narcissistic ex has to come along and mess it all up. I remember being terrified of dating in my early days of co-parenting. As much as I wanted to get out there...

Are There Laws Against Bad Mouthing the Other Parent to a Child?

Is your ex smack-talking you to your child? Sometimes it’s hard to wrap my head around what narcissists do to their kids, especially when it comes to bad mouthing their other parent. But like most of the shitty things they do, it’s all about manipulation and control....

9 Tips for Peaceful Co-Parenting With a Narcissist

Is peaceful co-parenting even possible with a narcissist? Yeah, I knew that’d be the first thing you asked. When it comes to successful co-parenting with a narcissist, the first thing you need to do is manage your expectations. If the situation is bad, it’s never...

8 Ways to Help Your Child Cope With a Narcissistic Father

Co-parenting with a narcissist is one thing, but how can you make sure their nonsense doesn’t negatively impact your child? The impact of narcissistic parenting on a child can be significant, but there are ways to navigate these difficulties and protect your child. In...

What Is Bad Co-Parenting? 9 Signs to Look For

Shared parenting is hard - but how do you know if you’re dealing with a bad co-parent or just someone who is just annoying? Sometimes we have to suck it up and deal with annoying. If we addressed everything our ex did that was annoying, we’d probably die from...

9 Toxic Behaviors You Should Never Put Up With in a Relationship

Romantic relationships are complex, confusing, and challenging. This is especially true when there are toxic behaviors at play. We all get a little toxic sometimes. It’s only natural. Sometimes we don’t play nice when we get defensive or feel like we are being...

How to Get a Narcissist to Pay Child Support

When you’re dealing with a narcissistic co-parent, one of the many things on your plate to deal with is probably child support. Narcissists don’t like to give up their money, and they will find a million reasons not to pay child support if they can. Even if they are...

Successful Parallel Parenting: Child-Centered Support Strategies

If you know anything about parallel parenting, it seems like a magic wand solution when you’re dealing with manipulative and inappropriate co-parenting. And while I’m going to talk about successful parallel parenting, I want you to know that success does not mean...

How Co-Parenting Counseling Can Help in High Conflict Situations

Are you struggling to co-parent with your ex-partner? Have you tried being reasonable and civil but they continue to act manipulative and controlling? I know how frustrating it can be and what it’s like to feel like there is no support or solution. Family court will...

Co-Parenting at Christmas: Splitting Christmas With Your Ex

As if the holidays aren’t stressful enough, the last thing you want is to deal with a difficult co-parent! But, alas, the holiday season is the perfect time for narcissistic exes to pull shenanigans just to make things difficult. I know that being a single parent at...

How to Keep Your Child Out of Co-Parenting Conflicts

You know how stressful it is to co-parent with a narcissist? Yeah, it’s stressful for your kiddos too. When successful co-parenting after a separation or divorce isn’t an option, it’s important that you do what you can to reduce conflicts around your children....

Narcissism in Men and Women: Is There a Difference?

Narcissism is a complex personality disorder with specific behaviors that help the narcissist maintain a perfect image of themselves. These behaviors often hurt and manipulate others, making it difficult for narcissists to have functioning relationships. Even though...

How to Handle a Narcissist in a Relationship

Dealing with a narcissist in a relationship is, without a doubt, extremely challenging. Whether you are in a partnership with a narcissist or trying to co-parent with one, their behaviors make it difficult to connect and communicate with them. If you're stuck dealing...

10 Co-Parenting Conflict Resolution Techniques

Are you living in a co-parenting nightmare? I mean the kind of situation where you’re constantly in conflict with your ex over everything from when your kids should be dropped off to what kind of shoes they wear. There are always residual hard feelings after a divorce...

What Does Narcissism Look Like in a Relationship?

Whether you’re struggling to co-parent with a difficult ex or trying to get over a terrible relationship, figuring out what happened can be a bit of a rollercoaster ride. Understanding what narcissism looks like in a relationship can help you untangle your experience....

The 8 Benefits of Parallel Parenting After Divorce

In this post, I want to talk to you about an important topic that has made a significant difference in my life as a parent: parallel parenting. Maybe you've heard of it before, or maybe it's a new concept for you. Either way, I want to share with you some of the...

7 Common Parallel Parenting Plan Mistakes (And How to Avoid Them)

Welcome to the world of parallel parenting - a journey that's like navigating through a maze with a blindfold on. When you're divorced or dealing with co-parenting challenges, knowing what to do doesn't always come easy. I've been there! While trying to co-parent with...

Emotional Support for Your Child While Parallel Parenting

You know how hard it is trying to parallel parent with a narcissistic or difficult ex, right? Well, your child is riding the same emotional rollercoaster. Although they may not be directly involved in any conflict, they are not unaffected by this challenging...

Parallel Parenting With a Narcissist: The Complete Guide

Co-parenting can be challenging under the best of circumstances, but when you find yourself co-parenting with a narcissist or toxic ex, the difficulties can escalate to a whole new level. And when you throw that on top of trying to manage your kids as a single parent,...

6 Ways to Deal with a High-Conflict Co-Parent

Are you dealing with a high-conflict co-parent? Trust me, I know how difficult that can be. You try and approach your co-parent with understanding and respect, but you are met with disdain and nonsense. We could sit around all day trying to figure out why your ex acts...

Parallel Parenting Tips: Do’s and Don’ts

Parallel parenting is an amazing tool if you are co-parenting with a narcissist, but there are right ways and wrong ways of doing it. This approach is all about focusing on what’s best for your child while maintaining your sanity. When done right, parallel parenting...

Parallel Parenting Communication Strategies: How to Avoid Conflict

Co-parenting with a narcissist is incredibly challenging, especially when you have to talk to them. It’s like trying to reason with a two-year-old who dropped their ice cream cone at the same time their balloon floated away. Oh, and they were also told no more YouTube...

10 Signs of a Toxic Co-Parent

Are you having a hard time trying to co-parent with your ex? Are they being purposefully difficult? Manipulative? Controlling? You may be dealing with a toxic co-parent. But in order to approach your challenging co-parenting situation, it's best to know for sure. In a...

8 Ways to Help Your Child Cope With a Narcissistic Parent

When you’re trying to co-parent with a narcissist, you can employ all of the parallel parenting tactics you can, but at the center of your efforts is the need to protect your child from their narcissistic parent. Unless your ex is causing harm to your child, such as...

Co-Parenting Self-Care: 8 Tips to Manage Stress and Chaos

No co-parenting situation is perfect, but when you’re dealing with an ex who is particularly difficult, it’s hard to avoid the co-parenting stress. I’ve been through the emotional toil and chaos of trying to co-parent with a narcissist while also trying to be a good...

How Can Single Moms Manage Emotional Triggers in Co-Parenting?

Are you struggling to manage emotional triggers in co-parenting? Whether you are dealing with the leftover negative feelings after a separation or a narcissistic ex, it’s normal to experience emotional reactivity to things they say or do. (Especially if you are trying...

How to Leave a Narcissist: What You Need To Do

As hard as it is to deal with a relationship with a narcissist, leaving your partner can be just as difficult. During the relationship, your partner likely behaved in certain ways to ensure that you would become dependent on them to the point where you lost all...

Co-Parenting Discipline with a Resistant Ex-Partner: 12 Tips

Are you trying to co-parent with a difficult ex, and you seem to argue about everything, especially co-parenting discipline? While every parent is entitled to discipline in their own way, it can be extremely frustrating when your ex either disciplines differently just...

Single Mom Co-Parenting Support: How to Find Your Tribe

When you're struggling through the challenges of co-parenting in a difficult situation, it can be very lonely without single mom co-parenting support. I remember when I started talking about parallel parenting with narcissists on the blog, it was really just something...

Co-Parenting Pick-Ups and Drop-Offs Without Conflict

If you've tried co-parenting pick-ups and drop-offs with a narcissist or toxic ex-partner, then you know how challenging this can be. What a perfect time for the narcissist to cause trouble! The tension, conflict, and potential for emotional distress during these...

What Does Your Child Need While Parallel Parenting?

Trying to co-parent with a narcissist is like participating in a never-ending game of "Who is Right?" Spoiler alert: They always win, but your child doesn't get any prizes. This is incredibly frustrating and challenging, especially when you are devoting your love and...

How to Help Your Child With Emotional Regulation

Parenting can be a challenging journey, especially when you're trying to co-parent with a narcissistic or toxic ex-partner. And unfortunately, the children often get caught in the crossfire, which can lead to struggles such as low self-esteem, anxiety, and emotional...

Single Mom Assistance: 13 Amazing Resources in Canada

Being a single mom can be both rewarding and challenging, and while you may be juggling multiple roles, there are plenty of resources to help make your journey a little smoother. And there are many reasons why someone becomes a single mom, and all of them are valid -...

17 Narcissist Memes You’re Allowed to Laugh At

Did you know that laughter is the best medicine? Dealing with a narcissistic ex can be a rollercoaster of emotions, and sometimes, you just need a good laugh to keep your spirits high! That's why I put together these funny narcissist memes that you are allowed to...

Effective and Assertive Parallel Parenting

Parallel parenting can be a challenging journey, especially dealing with a narcissistic ex (or an ex that is just plain difficult). I mean, you're probably parallel parenting because the situation is challenging, but there's a lot involved when it comes to reducing...

10 Tips for Communicating While Co-Parenting

Does communicating with your ex about your kids make you feel like you're pulling teeth? Does every question you ask turn into a full-blown argument? Unless your separation is perfectly amicable, you are likely going run into struggles while co-parenting - especially...

Parallel Parenting: The Role of Written Communication

If there was one thing I learned early on in my experience trying to co-parent with someone who is narcissistic, it was that written communication was the way to go. Every phone conversation ended in a blow-out, and face-to-face communication was downright...

How to Have Difficult Conversations When Co-Parenting

Co-parenting can be challenging even in the best of circumstances, but when you're dealing with a difficult ex-partner, it can feel like an uphill battle. However, effective communication and conflict resolution are key to successful co-parenting. Especially when...

How To Parallel Parent With Special Needs Children

When I was working on the second edition of my book You Can't Co-Parent With a Narcissist: A Guide to Parallel Parenting, I reached out to this community and asked if there was anything more I could include, and there were a few requests for how to parallel parent...

The Impact of Narcissistic Parenting On a Child

Are you trying to co-parent with a narcissist? I know how frustrating that can be!  I thought I had found the magical answer in parallel parenting, but when I started writing my book, I realized that dealing with a narcissist requires so much more than having a...

Is Narcissistic Parenting Abuse? How to Help Your Children

As the author of a book on parallel parenting, I have delved into the complexities of co-parenting under challenging circumstances. Parallel parenting aims to minimize conflict between separated or divorced parents by allowing them to disengage from each other while...

The Long-Term Effects of Narcissistic Parenting

As someone deeply invested in understanding the dynamics of parallel parenting with narcissistics, I have literally written the book. And through my research and experience, I began to see how narcissistic parenting can leave its mark on the children involved. If your...

Signs of Narcissistic Abuse in Children

I am a huge advocate for healthy co-parenting, but I come from a situation where I struggled to co-parent with a narcissist. As I was learning about parallel parenting and eventually wrote a book about it, I realized that co-parenting with a narcissist meant so much...

Can Narcissists Be Good Parents?

As the author of a book on parallel parenting, I understand the complexities of navigating challenging family dynamics. And as someone who has been through it, I understand the complexities of dealing with a narcissistic ex. Narcissistic traits, characterized by...

How to Establish and Communicate Boundaries to a Toxic Co-Parent

When I wrote the first edition of my book, You Can't Co-Parent With a Narcissist: A Guide to Parallel Parenting, I kind of skimmed over the concept of boundaries. It wasn't that I didn't think boundaries were important - at the time, I just didn't know what kind of...

Parallel Parenting: 11 Types of Boundaries

As the author of the book You Can't Co-Parent With a Narcissist: A Guide to Parallel Parenting, I have explored the intricate dynamics of parallel parenting, a valuable approach for separated or divorced parents facing high-conflict situations. Parallel parenting...

How to Handle Violated Boundaries When Co-Parenting

As someone who has delved deeply into the complexities of co-parenting and wrote a book on parallel parenting, I understand that maintaining clear boundaries is pivotal for the well-being of both parents and children. Co-parenting after a separation can be...

Conflicted Co-Parenting: Why Setting Boundaries is Important

Are you struggling to establish boundaries with your ex while co-parenting? If your ex is narcissistic, or a huge asshole, then they probably overstep your boundaries on purpose just to exert control and piss you off. When I wrote the first edition of my book, one...

How to Implement a Parallel Parenting Plan

Co-parenting after a separation or divorce can be one of life's most intricate balancing acts, often entailing a myriad of emotions, logistics, and considerations. For those of us who have embarked on this journey with a particularly challenging ex-partner, the...

Conflicted Co-Parenting: Creating a Parallel Parenting Plan

Divorce and separation can cause some real challenges, especially when there are children involved. High emotions and bad feelings can lead to conflict or differences in parenting styles. Whether that's all temporary or your ex purposely makes things difficult, there...

How to Set Up a Parallel Parenting Plan

Divorce or separation can be a tumultuous journey, especially when children are involved As you navigate this challenging path, it's crucial to find a co-parenting arrangement that not only supports your children's well-being but also minimizes the potential for...

Conflicted Co-Parenting: Different Parenting Styles

Co-parenting, the journey of raising a child together after a separation or divorce, is a remarkable chance for children to receive the love and support of both parents. As someone who has personally dealt with co-parenting conflicts, I understand the emotional...

How to Make an Effective Co-Parenting Agreement

Co-parenting can be a challenging journey, but having a well-crafted co-parenting agreement can help ease the process and foster a positive environment for both parents and children. As someone who has experienced the ups and downs of co-parenting, I understand the...

How to Be a Single Mom: 9 Tips for Thriving in Parenthood

Are you wondering how to be a single mom? There's no shame in asking the question! Even though we follow our instincts, sometimes it's nice to have some advice to make sure we're on the right track. Being a single mom takes a ton of strength, resilience, and an...

How Domestic Abuse Affects the Brain & How You Can Heal

Having personally experienced the pain and devastation of domestic abuse in the form of emotional and mental manipulation, I understand the profound impact it can have on individuals. If you're currently wondering, "What is domestic abuse?" and questioning whether you...

Healthy Boundaries: Your Child and Their Toxic Parent

As a co-parent who has experienced the challenges of dealing with a toxic co-parent, I understand the importance of empowering children to set healthy boundaries within their family dynamic. Establishing boundaries is crucial for children's emotional well-being,...

Parallel Parenting in the Summer

The summer season brings warmth, sunshine, and a break from school for children. For co-parents, it also means navigating the challenges of creating a seamless summer custody schedule while ensuring a positive and enjoyable experience for their children. Is your ex...

How to Talk To Your Child About Their Toxic Parent

Are you unsure how to talk to your child about their toxic parent? How exactly do you go about explaining narcissism to a child? It's tough because, on the one hand, you want to be honest with your child, but on the other hand, you don't want to bad mouth your ex....

Measuring Mom Success: 10 Signs You’re a Good Mom

Ugh, motherhood, am I right? How many times a day do you feel guilty about not being a "good enough" mom? With social media, friends, family, and even strangers trying to tell us how to do our jobs, figuring out how to be a good mom can be confusing and frustrating....

How to Parallel Parent and Raise Resilient Kids

I think one of the most amazing side effects (so to speak) of parallel parenting is the opportunity to raise resilient kids. Think about it this way: As you are struggling to find a more cohesive way to deal with a difficult or narcissistic ex, you are becoming...

Co-Parenting Versus Parallel Parenting: What You Need to Know

Divorce and separation can be tough on everyone, especially children. When parents separate, it can be challenging to navigate co-parenting, especially if one of the parents is a narcissist. In some cases, co-parenting isn't possible due to high levels of conflict and...

The 6 Stages of Healing From Emotional Abuse in a Relationship

What are the stages of emotional abuse recovery? Healing from a toxic relationship can be a difficult and painful journey, especially when the abuse is emotional in nature. I know this from my own firsthand experience with emotional abuse recovery and how it can leave...

How to Communicate in a Parallel Parenting Arrangement

Are you having a hard time communicating with your ex while trying to parallel parent your children? This can be frustrating and make it hard for you to co-parent effectively, especially if you are trying to co-parent with a narcissist or just a difficult ex. You may...

When a Narcissist Calls You Toxic: 8 Ways to Deal

Narcissists are masters of projection: They project their own faults onto other people. This can be incredibly frustrating - especially when you realize that this person doesn't truly care about your feelings or well-being and is just trying to justify their own bad...

6 Tips for Explaining Narcissism to a Child

It's never easy to explain the complexities of human behavior to a child, especially when that behavior affects the way you parent. But if you can get past any possible shame you might feel about having a narcissist in your life or family, there are several ways in...

6 Movies That Nail Narcissism

I am a huge movie buff, and I love the fact that you can learn so much through movies. When it comes to understanding narcissism, sometimes it can be difficult to comprehend what you're reading. Sure, I can explain what narcissism is, but can you picture what I'm...

How to Spot a Narcissist From a Mile Away

Narcissists are everywhere, and they have a way of ruining everyone's day! They can be found in every industry, class, gender, and race, and chances are that someone you know is a narcissist. In fact, there's a good chance that you might be dealing with one right now!...

How to Deal With Victim Shaming & Victim Blaming

Recently, there has been a whole slew of Facebook groups popping up where women can warn other women about abusive men. At first, following the drama was fun - but then I started seeing stories so similar to my own that it made my heart break. And then the victim...

How to Handle Parenting Plan Sabotage

Is your co-parent sabotaging your parenting time? Are they consistently manipulating the parenting plan? Having a parenting plan is great for co-parents who want to get along for the sake of their child. Drawing from my experience and insights shared in my book about...

8 Books About Parallel Parenting You Need to Read

Do you want to learn more about parallel parenting with a narcissist? Are you confused about the difference between parallel parenting and co-parenting? I love writing for this blog and providing you with as much information as I can on parallel parenting, toxic...

Can I Protect My Child From Their Toxic Narcissistic Parent?

In the animal world, if another animal tries to mess with a mother's young, she'll kill them. In the human world, it's a bit more difficult for parents to protect their children from a toxic co-parent. With court orders and parental rights, one parent can't simply...

Trauma Bonding Signs (And How to Break a Trauma Bond)

As I have been writing more and more about narcissists and emotional abuse, I started to come across the term "trauma bonding." I was fascinated to learn that narcissists and toxic abusers can take manipulation and control to a whole new level! Not that I was...

Mom Burnout and Overwhelm – 10 Tips to Help You Cope

Hey, tired moms! Are you tired of dealing with mom overwhelm? Tell me if this sounds familiar: As a mother, you spend your days trying to take care of everything and everyone. You feel like your entire being has been spread too thin. The only thing that comes close to...

Co-Parenting Struggles: How to Support Your Children

Co-parenting is the ideal situation when it comes to raising your child with your ex. However, it's not without its challenges! Co-parenting can be particularly challenging when your ex is toxic or narcissistic and purposely makes the situation difficult. When they do...

Narcissistic Parental Alienation: What Can You Do?

When it comes to parenting with a narcissistic ex, your child can, unfortunately, get thrown into the middle of the conflict. Sometimes, one parent will use the child by turning them against the other parent. In extreme cases, this is called "parental alienation" and...

How Does Toxic Parenting Affect Children?

Parents are not perfect. We are human beings too! Good parents are those with the best intentions for their children, even if they make mistakes along the way. Overall, a good parent wants to do better, improve, and make things right for their child. Toxic parents, on...

6 Conflicted Co-Parenting Challenges (And How to Deal With Them)

Are you dealing with conflicted co-parenting? Is your ex making it difficult while you are trying to parent your child? Unfortunately, it seems like this is a common issue nowadays, but don’t worry! As difficult as your toxic co-parent may be, there are ways you can...

Are They Toxic or Narcissistic? Do Labels Really Matter?

When I decided to focus this blog on dealing with narcissists, I assumed that we could simply slap the label "narcissist" on anyone who treated us poorly and made our lives difficult. While learning about narcissism certainly helped me in my situation, I came to...

How to Support Your Child When They Have a Toxic Parent

I know how hard it can be to deal with a toxic ex, especially when you're a parent. But while taking care of yourself and healing from the abuse is important, we can't forget that our children are affected by the situation as well. It's a tough situation for kids....

Toxic Relationships and Behaviors

Is Your Co-Parent Manipulating the Visitation Schedule? 10 Tips

Are you tired of your ex manipulating the visitation schedule? I mean, for god’s sake, why are they messing around with time with their child? If you’re dealing with a narcissistic co-parent, it’s because they want control. It’s as simple as that. But when your ex...

6 Ways to Ignore a Narcissist

What happens when you starve a fire of oxygen? That’s right. It dies. Dealing with a narcissist is kind of the same thing - just as oxygen fuels a fire, attention and reaction fuel a narcissist’s manipulative behavior. Take away the attention they crave and you can...

How to Be a Good Single Mom

Are you worried about being a good single mom? Being a single mom is hard. Even if you have a co-parent, you are the only person in your home responsible for your kiddo. That can definitely be overwhelming. Throughout my daughter’s life, I’ve had little to no support...

Understanding Counter-Parenting: Definition and Impact

Parenting is hard enough without having someone trying to manipulate and undermine everything you do. This is what can happen when you are co-parenting with a narcissist. Counter-parenting is exactly as it sounds: Your ex intentionally and actively works against your...

Do Narcissists Target Single Moms?

Dating as a single mom is fucking hard. Not only do we have to figure out how to get out there and meet people, then we have to worry about the type of people we’re letting in. And if you’ve ever been in a relationship with a narcissist, that adds a layer of fear to...

5 Signs of a Bitter Baby Daddy & What To Do

Are you dealing with a difficult co-parent? Are they just a bitter baby daddy? Whether you’re co-parenting with your ex or simply trying to maintain a civil relationship for the sake of your child, it’s important to recognize the signs of bitterness early on. Just...

Co-Parenting a Child with ADHD: How to Make It Easier

Co-parenting can present some unique challenges, so I can just imagine what it’s like when your child has ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder). Now, I’m going to preface this article by saying that I have no personal experience parenting a child with ADHD....

Narcissism vs Confidence: Are We Getting Them Mixed Up?

When someone comes off as a confident individual, it can be easy to interpret their behaviors as narcissistic. Maybe they brag or constantly demand attention. Perhaps they like to talk about themselves and show off. But this doesn’t make someone a narcissist....

No-Contact Co-Parenting: How To Do It

Are you ready to put a restraining order on your ex? Man, I wish it was that easy. But it’s hard to cut all contact with someone you’re supposed to be co-parenting with. And narcissists know this and will weaponize co-parenting to make their ex-partners’ lives hell....

Dating as a Single Mom (When Your Co-Parent is Crazy)

As a single mom, it’s hard enough to meet new people and get yourself into a dating situation. Then your narcissistic ex has to come along and mess it all up. I remember being terrified of dating in my early days of co-parenting. As much as I wanted to get out there...

Are There Laws Against Bad Mouthing the Other Parent to a Child?

Is your ex smack-talking you to your child? Sometimes it’s hard to wrap my head around what narcissists do to their kids, especially when it comes to bad mouthing their other parent. But like most of the shitty things they do, it’s all about manipulation and control....

9 Tips for Peaceful Co-Parenting With a Narcissist

Is peaceful co-parenting even possible with a narcissist? Yeah, I knew that’d be the first thing you asked. When it comes to successful co-parenting with a narcissist, the first thing you need to do is manage your expectations. If the situation is bad, it’s never...

8 Ways to Help Your Child Cope With a Narcissistic Father

Co-parenting with a narcissist is one thing, but how can you make sure their nonsense doesn’t negatively impact your child? The impact of narcissistic parenting on a child can be significant, but there are ways to navigate these difficulties and protect your child. In...

What Is Bad Co-Parenting? 9 Signs to Look For

Shared parenting is hard - but how do you know if you’re dealing with a bad co-parent or just someone who is just annoying? Sometimes we have to suck it up and deal with annoying. If we addressed everything our ex did that was annoying, we’d probably die from...

9 Toxic Behaviors You Should Never Put Up With in a Relationship

Romantic relationships are complex, confusing, and challenging. This is especially true when there are toxic behaviors at play. We all get a little toxic sometimes. It’s only natural. Sometimes we don’t play nice when we get defensive or feel like we are being...

How to Get a Narcissist to Pay Child Support

When you’re dealing with a narcissistic co-parent, one of the many things on your plate to deal with is probably child support. Narcissists don’t like to give up their money, and they will find a million reasons not to pay child support if they can. Even if they are...

Successful Parallel Parenting: Child-Centered Support Strategies

If you know anything about parallel parenting, it seems like a magic wand solution when you’re dealing with manipulative and inappropriate co-parenting. And while I’m going to talk about successful parallel parenting, I want you to know that success does not mean...

How Co-Parenting Counseling Can Help in High Conflict Situations

Are you struggling to co-parent with your ex-partner? Have you tried being reasonable and civil but they continue to act manipulative and controlling? I know how frustrating it can be and what it’s like to feel like there is no support or solution. Family court will...

Co-Parenting at Christmas: Splitting Christmas With Your Ex

As if the holidays aren’t stressful enough, the last thing you want is to deal with a difficult co-parent! But, alas, the holiday season is the perfect time for narcissistic exes to pull shenanigans just to make things difficult. I know that being a single parent at...

How to Keep Your Child Out of Co-Parenting Conflicts

You know how stressful it is to co-parent with a narcissist? Yeah, it’s stressful for your kiddos too. When successful co-parenting after a separation or divorce isn’t an option, it’s important that you do what you can to reduce conflicts around your children....

Narcissism in Men and Women: Is There a Difference?

Narcissism is a complex personality disorder with specific behaviors that help the narcissist maintain a perfect image of themselves. These behaviors often hurt and manipulate others, making it difficult for narcissists to have functioning relationships. Even though...

How to Handle a Narcissist in a Relationship

Dealing with a narcissist in a relationship is, without a doubt, extremely challenging. Whether you are in a partnership with a narcissist or trying to co-parent with one, their behaviors make it difficult to connect and communicate with them. If you're stuck dealing...

10 Co-Parenting Conflict Resolution Techniques

Are you living in a co-parenting nightmare? I mean the kind of situation where you’re constantly in conflict with your ex over everything from when your kids should be dropped off to what kind of shoes they wear. There are always residual hard feelings after a divorce...

What Does Narcissism Look Like in a Relationship?

Whether you’re struggling to co-parent with a difficult ex or trying to get over a terrible relationship, figuring out what happened can be a bit of a rollercoaster ride. Understanding what narcissism looks like in a relationship can help you untangle your experience....

The 8 Benefits of Parallel Parenting After Divorce

In this post, I want to talk to you about an important topic that has made a significant difference in my life as a parent: parallel parenting. Maybe you've heard of it before, or maybe it's a new concept for you. Either way, I want to share with you some of the...

7 Common Parallel Parenting Plan Mistakes (And How to Avoid Them)

Welcome to the world of parallel parenting - a journey that's like navigating through a maze with a blindfold on. When you're divorced or dealing with co-parenting challenges, knowing what to do doesn't always come easy. I've been there! While trying to co-parent with...

Emotional Support for Your Child While Parallel Parenting

You know how hard it is trying to parallel parent with a narcissistic or difficult ex, right? Well, your child is riding the same emotional rollercoaster. Although they may not be directly involved in any conflict, they are not unaffected by this challenging...

Parallel Parenting With a Narcissist: The Complete Guide

Co-parenting can be challenging under the best of circumstances, but when you find yourself co-parenting with a narcissist or toxic ex, the difficulties can escalate to a whole new level. And when you throw that on top of trying to manage your kids as a single parent,...

6 Ways to Deal with a High-Conflict Co-Parent

Are you dealing with a high-conflict co-parent? Trust me, I know how difficult that can be. You try and approach your co-parent with understanding and respect, but you are met with disdain and nonsense. We could sit around all day trying to figure out why your ex acts...

Parallel Parenting Tips: Do’s and Don’ts

Parallel parenting is an amazing tool if you are co-parenting with a narcissist, but there are right ways and wrong ways of doing it. This approach is all about focusing on what’s best for your child while maintaining your sanity. When done right, parallel parenting...

Parallel Parenting Communication Strategies: How to Avoid Conflict

Co-parenting with a narcissist is incredibly challenging, especially when you have to talk to them. It’s like trying to reason with a two-year-old who dropped their ice cream cone at the same time their balloon floated away. Oh, and they were also told no more YouTube...

10 Signs of a Toxic Co-Parent

Are you having a hard time trying to co-parent with your ex? Are they being purposefully difficult? Manipulative? Controlling? You may be dealing with a toxic co-parent. But in order to approach your challenging co-parenting situation, it's best to know for sure. In a...

8 Ways to Help Your Child Cope With a Narcissistic Parent

When you’re trying to co-parent with a narcissist, you can employ all of the parallel parenting tactics you can, but at the center of your efforts is the need to protect your child from their narcissistic parent. Unless your ex is causing harm to your child, such as...

Co-Parenting Self-Care: 8 Tips to Manage Stress and Chaos

No co-parenting situation is perfect, but when you’re dealing with an ex who is particularly difficult, it’s hard to avoid the co-parenting stress. I’ve been through the emotional toil and chaos of trying to co-parent with a narcissist while also trying to be a good...

How Can Single Moms Manage Emotional Triggers in Co-Parenting?

Are you struggling to manage emotional triggers in co-parenting? Whether you are dealing with the leftover negative feelings after a separation or a narcissistic ex, it’s normal to experience emotional reactivity to things they say or do. (Especially if you are trying...

How to Leave a Narcissist: What You Need To Do

As hard as it is to deal with a relationship with a narcissist, leaving your partner can be just as difficult. During the relationship, your partner likely behaved in certain ways to ensure that you would become dependent on them to the point where you lost all...

Co-Parenting Discipline with a Resistant Ex-Partner: 12 Tips

Are you trying to co-parent with a difficult ex, and you seem to argue about everything, especially co-parenting discipline? While every parent is entitled to discipline in their own way, it can be extremely frustrating when your ex either disciplines differently just...

Single Mom Co-Parenting Support: How to Find Your Tribe

When you're struggling through the challenges of co-parenting in a difficult situation, it can be very lonely without single mom co-parenting support. I remember when I started talking about parallel parenting with narcissists on the blog, it was really just something...

Co-Parenting Pick-Ups and Drop-Offs Without Conflict

If you've tried co-parenting pick-ups and drop-offs with a narcissist or toxic ex-partner, then you know how challenging this can be. What a perfect time for the narcissist to cause trouble! The tension, conflict, and potential for emotional distress during these...

What Does Your Child Need While Parallel Parenting?

Trying to co-parent with a narcissist is like participating in a never-ending game of "Who is Right?" Spoiler alert: They always win, but your child doesn't get any prizes. This is incredibly frustrating and challenging, especially when you are devoting your love and...

How to Help Your Child With Emotional Regulation

Parenting can be a challenging journey, especially when you're trying to co-parent with a narcissistic or toxic ex-partner. And unfortunately, the children often get caught in the crossfire, which can lead to struggles such as low self-esteem, anxiety, and emotional...

Single Mom Assistance: 13 Amazing Resources in Canada

Being a single mom can be both rewarding and challenging, and while you may be juggling multiple roles, there are plenty of resources to help make your journey a little smoother. And there are many reasons why someone becomes a single mom, and all of them are valid -...

17 Narcissist Memes You’re Allowed to Laugh At

Did you know that laughter is the best medicine? Dealing with a narcissistic ex can be a rollercoaster of emotions, and sometimes, you just need a good laugh to keep your spirits high! That's why I put together these funny narcissist memes that you are allowed to...

Effective and Assertive Parallel Parenting

Parallel parenting can be a challenging journey, especially dealing with a narcissistic ex (or an ex that is just plain difficult). I mean, you're probably parallel parenting because the situation is challenging, but there's a lot involved when it comes to reducing...

10 Tips for Communicating While Co-Parenting

Does communicating with your ex about your kids make you feel like you're pulling teeth? Does every question you ask turn into a full-blown argument? Unless your separation is perfectly amicable, you are likely going run into struggles while co-parenting - especially...

Parallel Parenting: The Role of Written Communication

If there was one thing I learned early on in my experience trying to co-parent with someone who is narcissistic, it was that written communication was the way to go. Every phone conversation ended in a blow-out, and face-to-face communication was downright...

How to Have Difficult Conversations When Co-Parenting

Co-parenting can be challenging even in the best of circumstances, but when you're dealing with a difficult ex-partner, it can feel like an uphill battle. However, effective communication and conflict resolution are key to successful co-parenting. Especially when...

How To Parallel Parent With Special Needs Children

When I was working on the second edition of my book You Can't Co-Parent With a Narcissist: A Guide to Parallel Parenting, I reached out to this community and asked if there was anything more I could include, and there were a few requests for how to parallel parent...

The Impact of Narcissistic Parenting On a Child

Are you trying to co-parent with a narcissist? I know how frustrating that can be!  I thought I had found the magical answer in parallel parenting, but when I started writing my book, I realized that dealing with a narcissist requires so much more than having a...

Is Narcissistic Parenting Abuse? How to Help Your Children

As the author of a book on parallel parenting, I have delved into the complexities of co-parenting under challenging circumstances. Parallel parenting aims to minimize conflict between separated or divorced parents by allowing them to disengage from each other while...

The Long-Term Effects of Narcissistic Parenting

As someone deeply invested in understanding the dynamics of parallel parenting with narcissistics, I have literally written the book. And through my research and experience, I began to see how narcissistic parenting can leave its mark on the children involved. If your...

Signs of Narcissistic Abuse in Children

I am a huge advocate for healthy co-parenting, but I come from a situation where I struggled to co-parent with a narcissist. As I was learning about parallel parenting and eventually wrote a book about it, I realized that co-parenting with a narcissist meant so much...

Can Narcissists Be Good Parents?

As the author of a book on parallel parenting, I understand the complexities of navigating challenging family dynamics. And as someone who has been through it, I understand the complexities of dealing with a narcissistic ex. Narcissistic traits, characterized by...

How to Establish and Communicate Boundaries to a Toxic Co-Parent

When I wrote the first edition of my book, You Can't Co-Parent With a Narcissist: A Guide to Parallel Parenting, I kind of skimmed over the concept of boundaries. It wasn't that I didn't think boundaries were important - at the time, I just didn't know what kind of...

Parallel Parenting: 11 Types of Boundaries

As the author of the book You Can't Co-Parent With a Narcissist: A Guide to Parallel Parenting, I have explored the intricate dynamics of parallel parenting, a valuable approach for separated or divorced parents facing high-conflict situations. Parallel parenting...

How to Handle Violated Boundaries When Co-Parenting

As someone who has delved deeply into the complexities of co-parenting and wrote a book on parallel parenting, I understand that maintaining clear boundaries is pivotal for the well-being of both parents and children. Co-parenting after a separation can be...

Conflicted Co-Parenting: Why Setting Boundaries is Important

Are you struggling to establish boundaries with your ex while co-parenting? If your ex is narcissistic, or a huge asshole, then they probably overstep your boundaries on purpose just to exert control and piss you off. When I wrote the first edition of my book, one...

How to Implement a Parallel Parenting Plan

Co-parenting after a separation or divorce can be one of life's most intricate balancing acts, often entailing a myriad of emotions, logistics, and considerations. For those of us who have embarked on this journey with a particularly challenging ex-partner, the...

Conflicted Co-Parenting: Creating a Parallel Parenting Plan

Divorce and separation can cause some real challenges, especially when there are children involved. High emotions and bad feelings can lead to conflict or differences in parenting styles. Whether that's all temporary or your ex purposely makes things difficult, there...

How to Set Up a Parallel Parenting Plan

Divorce or separation can be a tumultuous journey, especially when children are involved As you navigate this challenging path, it's crucial to find a co-parenting arrangement that not only supports your children's well-being but also minimizes the potential for...

Conflicted Co-Parenting: Different Parenting Styles

Co-parenting, the journey of raising a child together after a separation or divorce, is a remarkable chance for children to receive the love and support of both parents. As someone who has personally dealt with co-parenting conflicts, I understand the emotional...

How to Make an Effective Co-Parenting Agreement

Co-parenting can be a challenging journey, but having a well-crafted co-parenting agreement can help ease the process and foster a positive environment for both parents and children. As someone who has experienced the ups and downs of co-parenting, I understand the...

How to Be a Single Mom: 9 Tips for Thriving in Parenthood

Are you wondering how to be a single mom? There's no shame in asking the question! Even though we follow our instincts, sometimes it's nice to have some advice to make sure we're on the right track. Being a single mom takes a ton of strength, resilience, and an...

How Domestic Abuse Affects the Brain & How You Can Heal

Having personally experienced the pain and devastation of domestic abuse in the form of emotional and mental manipulation, I understand the profound impact it can have on individuals. If you're currently wondering, "What is domestic abuse?" and questioning whether you...

Healthy Boundaries: Your Child and Their Toxic Parent

As a co-parent who has experienced the challenges of dealing with a toxic co-parent, I understand the importance of empowering children to set healthy boundaries within their family dynamic. Establishing boundaries is crucial for children's emotional well-being,...

Parallel Parenting in the Summer

The summer season brings warmth, sunshine, and a break from school for children. For co-parents, it also means navigating the challenges of creating a seamless summer custody schedule while ensuring a positive and enjoyable experience for their children. Is your ex...

How to Talk To Your Child About Their Toxic Parent

Are you unsure how to talk to your child about their toxic parent? How exactly do you go about explaining narcissism to a child? It's tough because, on the one hand, you want to be honest with your child, but on the other hand, you don't want to bad mouth your ex....

Measuring Mom Success: 10 Signs You’re a Good Mom

Ugh, motherhood, am I right? How many times a day do you feel guilty about not being a "good enough" mom? With social media, friends, family, and even strangers trying to tell us how to do our jobs, figuring out how to be a good mom can be confusing and frustrating....

How to Parallel Parent and Raise Resilient Kids

I think one of the most amazing side effects (so to speak) of parallel parenting is the opportunity to raise resilient kids. Think about it this way: As you are struggling to find a more cohesive way to deal with a difficult or narcissistic ex, you are becoming...

Co-Parenting Versus Parallel Parenting: What You Need to Know

Divorce and separation can be tough on everyone, especially children. When parents separate, it can be challenging to navigate co-parenting, especially if one of the parents is a narcissist. In some cases, co-parenting isn't possible due to high levels of conflict and...

The 6 Stages of Healing From Emotional Abuse in a Relationship

What are the stages of emotional abuse recovery? Healing from a toxic relationship can be a difficult and painful journey, especially when the abuse is emotional in nature. I know this from my own firsthand experience with emotional abuse recovery and how it can leave...

How to Communicate in a Parallel Parenting Arrangement

Are you having a hard time communicating with your ex while trying to parallel parent your children? This can be frustrating and make it hard for you to co-parent effectively, especially if you are trying to co-parent with a narcissist or just a difficult ex. You may...

When a Narcissist Calls You Toxic: 8 Ways to Deal

Narcissists are masters of projection: They project their own faults onto other people. This can be incredibly frustrating - especially when you realize that this person doesn't truly care about your feelings or well-being and is just trying to justify their own bad...

6 Tips for Explaining Narcissism to a Child

It's never easy to explain the complexities of human behavior to a child, especially when that behavior affects the way you parent. But if you can get past any possible shame you might feel about having a narcissist in your life or family, there are several ways in...

6 Movies That Nail Narcissism

I am a huge movie buff, and I love the fact that you can learn so much through movies. When it comes to understanding narcissism, sometimes it can be difficult to comprehend what you're reading. Sure, I can explain what narcissism is, but can you picture what I'm...

How to Spot a Narcissist From a Mile Away

Narcissists are everywhere, and they have a way of ruining everyone's day! They can be found in every industry, class, gender, and race, and chances are that someone you know is a narcissist. In fact, there's a good chance that you might be dealing with one right now!...

How to Deal With Victim Shaming & Victim Blaming

Recently, there has been a whole slew of Facebook groups popping up where women can warn other women about abusive men. At first, following the drama was fun - but then I started seeing stories so similar to my own that it made my heart break. And then the victim...

How to Handle Parenting Plan Sabotage

Is your co-parent sabotaging your parenting time? Are they consistently manipulating the parenting plan? Having a parenting plan is great for co-parents who want to get along for the sake of their child. Drawing from my experience and insights shared in my book about...

8 Books About Parallel Parenting You Need to Read

Do you want to learn more about parallel parenting with a narcissist? Are you confused about the difference between parallel parenting and co-parenting? I love writing for this blog and providing you with as much information as I can on parallel parenting, toxic...

Can I Protect My Child From Their Toxic Narcissistic Parent?

In the animal world, if another animal tries to mess with a mother's young, she'll kill them. In the human world, it's a bit more difficult for parents to protect their children from a toxic co-parent. With court orders and parental rights, one parent can't simply...

Trauma Bonding Signs (And How to Break a Trauma Bond)

As I have been writing more and more about narcissists and emotional abuse, I started to come across the term "trauma bonding." I was fascinated to learn that narcissists and toxic abusers can take manipulation and control to a whole new level! Not that I was...

Mom Burnout and Overwhelm – 10 Tips to Help You Cope

Hey, tired moms! Are you tired of dealing with mom overwhelm? Tell me if this sounds familiar: As a mother, you spend your days trying to take care of everything and everyone. You feel like your entire being has been spread too thin. The only thing that comes close to...

Co-Parenting Struggles: How to Support Your Children

Co-parenting is the ideal situation when it comes to raising your child with your ex. However, it's not without its challenges! Co-parenting can be particularly challenging when your ex is toxic or narcissistic and purposely makes the situation difficult. When they do...

Narcissistic Parental Alienation: What Can You Do?

When it comes to parenting with a narcissistic ex, your child can, unfortunately, get thrown into the middle of the conflict. Sometimes, one parent will use the child by turning them against the other parent. In extreme cases, this is called "parental alienation" and...

How Does Toxic Parenting Affect Children?

Parents are not perfect. We are human beings too! Good parents are those with the best intentions for their children, even if they make mistakes along the way. Overall, a good parent wants to do better, improve, and make things right for their child. Toxic parents, on...

6 Conflicted Co-Parenting Challenges (And How to Deal With Them)

Are you dealing with conflicted co-parenting? Is your ex making it difficult while you are trying to parent your child? Unfortunately, it seems like this is a common issue nowadays, but don’t worry! As difficult as your toxic co-parent may be, there are ways you can...

Are They Toxic or Narcissistic? Do Labels Really Matter?

When I decided to focus this blog on dealing with narcissists, I assumed that we could simply slap the label "narcissist" on anyone who treated us poorly and made our lives difficult. While learning about narcissism certainly helped me in my situation, I came to...

How to Support Your Child When They Have a Toxic Parent

I know how hard it can be to deal with a toxic ex, especially when you're a parent. But while taking care of yourself and healing from the abuse is important, we can't forget that our children are affected by the situation as well. It's a tough situation for kids....

Healing from Toxic Abuse

Is Your Co-Parent Manipulating the Visitation Schedule? 10 Tips

Are you tired of your ex manipulating the visitation schedule? I mean, for god’s sake, why are they messing around with time with their child? If you’re dealing with a narcissistic co-parent, it’s because they want control. It’s as simple as that. But when your ex...

6 Ways to Ignore a Narcissist

What happens when you starve a fire of oxygen? That’s right. It dies. Dealing with a narcissist is kind of the same thing - just as oxygen fuels a fire, attention and reaction fuel a narcissist’s manipulative behavior. Take away the attention they crave and you can...

How to Be a Good Single Mom

Are you worried about being a good single mom? Being a single mom is hard. Even if you have a co-parent, you are the only person in your home responsible for your kiddo. That can definitely be overwhelming. Throughout my daughter’s life, I’ve had little to no support...

Understanding Counter-Parenting: Definition and Impact

Parenting is hard enough without having someone trying to manipulate and undermine everything you do. This is what can happen when you are co-parenting with a narcissist. Counter-parenting is exactly as it sounds: Your ex intentionally and actively works against your...

Do Narcissists Target Single Moms?

Dating as a single mom is fucking hard. Not only do we have to figure out how to get out there and meet people, then we have to worry about the type of people we’re letting in. And if you’ve ever been in a relationship with a narcissist, that adds a layer of fear to...

5 Signs of a Bitter Baby Daddy & What To Do

Are you dealing with a difficult co-parent? Are they just a bitter baby daddy? Whether you’re co-parenting with your ex or simply trying to maintain a civil relationship for the sake of your child, it’s important to recognize the signs of bitterness early on. Just...

Co-Parenting a Child with ADHD: How to Make It Easier

Co-parenting can present some unique challenges, so I can just imagine what it’s like when your child has ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder). Now, I’m going to preface this article by saying that I have no personal experience parenting a child with ADHD....

Narcissism vs Confidence: Are We Getting Them Mixed Up?

When someone comes off as a confident individual, it can be easy to interpret their behaviors as narcissistic. Maybe they brag or constantly demand attention. Perhaps they like to talk about themselves and show off. But this doesn’t make someone a narcissist....

No-Contact Co-Parenting: How To Do It

Are you ready to put a restraining order on your ex? Man, I wish it was that easy. But it’s hard to cut all contact with someone you’re supposed to be co-parenting with. And narcissists know this and will weaponize co-parenting to make their ex-partners’ lives hell....

Dating as a Single Mom (When Your Co-Parent is Crazy)

As a single mom, it’s hard enough to meet new people and get yourself into a dating situation. Then your narcissistic ex has to come along and mess it all up. I remember being terrified of dating in my early days of co-parenting. As much as I wanted to get out there...

Are There Laws Against Bad Mouthing the Other Parent to a Child?

Is your ex smack-talking you to your child? Sometimes it’s hard to wrap my head around what narcissists do to their kids, especially when it comes to bad mouthing their other parent. But like most of the shitty things they do, it’s all about manipulation and control....

9 Tips for Peaceful Co-Parenting With a Narcissist

Is peaceful co-parenting even possible with a narcissist? Yeah, I knew that’d be the first thing you asked. When it comes to successful co-parenting with a narcissist, the first thing you need to do is manage your expectations. If the situation is bad, it’s never...

8 Ways to Help Your Child Cope With a Narcissistic Father

Co-parenting with a narcissist is one thing, but how can you make sure their nonsense doesn’t negatively impact your child? The impact of narcissistic parenting on a child can be significant, but there are ways to navigate these difficulties and protect your child. In...

What Is Bad Co-Parenting? 9 Signs to Look For

Shared parenting is hard - but how do you know if you’re dealing with a bad co-parent or just someone who is just annoying? Sometimes we have to suck it up and deal with annoying. If we addressed everything our ex did that was annoying, we’d probably die from...

9 Toxic Behaviors You Should Never Put Up With in a Relationship

Romantic relationships are complex, confusing, and challenging. This is especially true when there are toxic behaviors at play. We all get a little toxic sometimes. It’s only natural. Sometimes we don’t play nice when we get defensive or feel like we are being...

How to Get a Narcissist to Pay Child Support

When you’re dealing with a narcissistic co-parent, one of the many things on your plate to deal with is probably child support. Narcissists don’t like to give up their money, and they will find a million reasons not to pay child support if they can. Even if they are...

Successful Parallel Parenting: Child-Centered Support Strategies

If you know anything about parallel parenting, it seems like a magic wand solution when you’re dealing with manipulative and inappropriate co-parenting. And while I’m going to talk about successful parallel parenting, I want you to know that success does not mean...

How Co-Parenting Counseling Can Help in High Conflict Situations

Are you struggling to co-parent with your ex-partner? Have you tried being reasonable and civil but they continue to act manipulative and controlling? I know how frustrating it can be and what it’s like to feel like there is no support or solution. Family court will...

Co-Parenting at Christmas: Splitting Christmas With Your Ex

As if the holidays aren’t stressful enough, the last thing you want is to deal with a difficult co-parent! But, alas, the holiday season is the perfect time for narcissistic exes to pull shenanigans just to make things difficult. I know that being a single parent at...

How to Keep Your Child Out of Co-Parenting Conflicts

You know how stressful it is to co-parent with a narcissist? Yeah, it’s stressful for your kiddos too. When successful co-parenting after a separation or divorce isn’t an option, it’s important that you do what you can to reduce conflicts around your children....

Narcissism in Men and Women: Is There a Difference?

Narcissism is a complex personality disorder with specific behaviors that help the narcissist maintain a perfect image of themselves. These behaviors often hurt and manipulate others, making it difficult for narcissists to have functioning relationships. Even though...

How to Handle a Narcissist in a Relationship

Dealing with a narcissist in a relationship is, without a doubt, extremely challenging. Whether you are in a partnership with a narcissist or trying to co-parent with one, their behaviors make it difficult to connect and communicate with them. If you're stuck dealing...

10 Co-Parenting Conflict Resolution Techniques

Are you living in a co-parenting nightmare? I mean the kind of situation where you’re constantly in conflict with your ex over everything from when your kids should be dropped off to what kind of shoes they wear. There are always residual hard feelings after a divorce...

What Does Narcissism Look Like in a Relationship?

Whether you’re struggling to co-parent with a difficult ex or trying to get over a terrible relationship, figuring out what happened can be a bit of a rollercoaster ride. Understanding what narcissism looks like in a relationship can help you untangle your experience....

The 8 Benefits of Parallel Parenting After Divorce

In this post, I want to talk to you about an important topic that has made a significant difference in my life as a parent: parallel parenting. Maybe you've heard of it before, or maybe it's a new concept for you. Either way, I want to share with you some of the...

7 Common Parallel Parenting Plan Mistakes (And How to Avoid Them)

Welcome to the world of parallel parenting - a journey that's like navigating through a maze with a blindfold on. When you're divorced or dealing with co-parenting challenges, knowing what to do doesn't always come easy. I've been there! While trying to co-parent with...

Emotional Support for Your Child While Parallel Parenting

You know how hard it is trying to parallel parent with a narcissistic or difficult ex, right? Well, your child is riding the same emotional rollercoaster. Although they may not be directly involved in any conflict, they are not unaffected by this challenging...

Parallel Parenting With a Narcissist: The Complete Guide

Co-parenting can be challenging under the best of circumstances, but when you find yourself co-parenting with a narcissist or toxic ex, the difficulties can escalate to a whole new level. And when you throw that on top of trying to manage your kids as a single parent,...

6 Ways to Deal with a High-Conflict Co-Parent

Are you dealing with a high-conflict co-parent? Trust me, I know how difficult that can be. You try and approach your co-parent with understanding and respect, but you are met with disdain and nonsense. We could sit around all day trying to figure out why your ex acts...

Parallel Parenting Tips: Do’s and Don’ts

Parallel parenting is an amazing tool if you are co-parenting with a narcissist, but there are right ways and wrong ways of doing it. This approach is all about focusing on what’s best for your child while maintaining your sanity. When done right, parallel parenting...

Parallel Parenting Communication Strategies: How to Avoid Conflict

Co-parenting with a narcissist is incredibly challenging, especially when you have to talk to them. It’s like trying to reason with a two-year-old who dropped their ice cream cone at the same time their balloon floated away. Oh, and they were also told no more YouTube...

10 Signs of a Toxic Co-Parent

Are you having a hard time trying to co-parent with your ex? Are they being purposefully difficult? Manipulative? Controlling? You may be dealing with a toxic co-parent. But in order to approach your challenging co-parenting situation, it's best to know for sure. In a...

8 Ways to Help Your Child Cope With a Narcissistic Parent

When you’re trying to co-parent with a narcissist, you can employ all of the parallel parenting tactics you can, but at the center of your efforts is the need to protect your child from their narcissistic parent. Unless your ex is causing harm to your child, such as...

Co-Parenting Self-Care: 8 Tips to Manage Stress and Chaos

No co-parenting situation is perfect, but when you’re dealing with an ex who is particularly difficult, it’s hard to avoid the co-parenting stress. I’ve been through the emotional toil and chaos of trying to co-parent with a narcissist while also trying to be a good...

How Can Single Moms Manage Emotional Triggers in Co-Parenting?

Are you struggling to manage emotional triggers in co-parenting? Whether you are dealing with the leftover negative feelings after a separation or a narcissistic ex, it’s normal to experience emotional reactivity to things they say or do. (Especially if you are trying...

How to Leave a Narcissist: What You Need To Do

As hard as it is to deal with a relationship with a narcissist, leaving your partner can be just as difficult. During the relationship, your partner likely behaved in certain ways to ensure that you would become dependent on them to the point where you lost all...

Co-Parenting Discipline with a Resistant Ex-Partner: 12 Tips

Are you trying to co-parent with a difficult ex, and you seem to argue about everything, especially co-parenting discipline? While every parent is entitled to discipline in their own way, it can be extremely frustrating when your ex either disciplines differently just...

Single Mom Co-Parenting Support: How to Find Your Tribe

When you're struggling through the challenges of co-parenting in a difficult situation, it can be very lonely without single mom co-parenting support. I remember when I started talking about parallel parenting with narcissists on the blog, it was really just something...

Co-Parenting Pick-Ups and Drop-Offs Without Conflict

If you've tried co-parenting pick-ups and drop-offs with a narcissist or toxic ex-partner, then you know how challenging this can be. What a perfect time for the narcissist to cause trouble! The tension, conflict, and potential for emotional distress during these...

What Does Your Child Need While Parallel Parenting?

Trying to co-parent with a narcissist is like participating in a never-ending game of "Who is Right?" Spoiler alert: They always win, but your child doesn't get any prizes. This is incredibly frustrating and challenging, especially when you are devoting your love and...

How to Help Your Child With Emotional Regulation

Parenting can be a challenging journey, especially when you're trying to co-parent with a narcissistic or toxic ex-partner. And unfortunately, the children often get caught in the crossfire, which can lead to struggles such as low self-esteem, anxiety, and emotional...

Single Mom Assistance: 13 Amazing Resources in Canada

Being a single mom can be both rewarding and challenging, and while you may be juggling multiple roles, there are plenty of resources to help make your journey a little smoother. And there are many reasons why someone becomes a single mom, and all of them are valid -...

17 Narcissist Memes You’re Allowed to Laugh At

Did you know that laughter is the best medicine? Dealing with a narcissistic ex can be a rollercoaster of emotions, and sometimes, you just need a good laugh to keep your spirits high! That's why I put together these funny narcissist memes that you are allowed to...

Effective and Assertive Parallel Parenting

Parallel parenting can be a challenging journey, especially dealing with a narcissistic ex (or an ex that is just plain difficult). I mean, you're probably parallel parenting because the situation is challenging, but there's a lot involved when it comes to reducing...

10 Tips for Communicating While Co-Parenting

Does communicating with your ex about your kids make you feel like you're pulling teeth? Does every question you ask turn into a full-blown argument? Unless your separation is perfectly amicable, you are likely going run into struggles while co-parenting - especially...

Parallel Parenting: The Role of Written Communication

If there was one thing I learned early on in my experience trying to co-parent with someone who is narcissistic, it was that written communication was the way to go. Every phone conversation ended in a blow-out, and face-to-face communication was downright...

How to Have Difficult Conversations When Co-Parenting

Co-parenting can be challenging even in the best of circumstances, but when you're dealing with a difficult ex-partner, it can feel like an uphill battle. However, effective communication and conflict resolution are key to successful co-parenting. Especially when...

How To Parallel Parent With Special Needs Children

When I was working on the second edition of my book You Can't Co-Parent With a Narcissist: A Guide to Parallel Parenting, I reached out to this community and asked if there was anything more I could include, and there were a few requests for how to parallel parent...

The Impact of Narcissistic Parenting On a Child

Are you trying to co-parent with a narcissist? I know how frustrating that can be!  I thought I had found the magical answer in parallel parenting, but when I started writing my book, I realized that dealing with a narcissist requires so much more than having a...

Is Narcissistic Parenting Abuse? How to Help Your Children

As the author of a book on parallel parenting, I have delved into the complexities of co-parenting under challenging circumstances. Parallel parenting aims to minimize conflict between separated or divorced parents by allowing them to disengage from each other while...

The Long-Term Effects of Narcissistic Parenting

As someone deeply invested in understanding the dynamics of parallel parenting with narcissistics, I have literally written the book. And through my research and experience, I began to see how narcissistic parenting can leave its mark on the children involved. If your...

Signs of Narcissistic Abuse in Children

I am a huge advocate for healthy co-parenting, but I come from a situation where I struggled to co-parent with a narcissist. As I was learning about parallel parenting and eventually wrote a book about it, I realized that co-parenting with a narcissist meant so much...

Can Narcissists Be Good Parents?

As the author of a book on parallel parenting, I understand the complexities of navigating challenging family dynamics. And as someone who has been through it, I understand the complexities of dealing with a narcissistic ex. Narcissistic traits, characterized by...

How to Establish and Communicate Boundaries to a Toxic Co-Parent

When I wrote the first edition of my book, You Can't Co-Parent With a Narcissist: A Guide to Parallel Parenting, I kind of skimmed over the concept of boundaries. It wasn't that I didn't think boundaries were important - at the time, I just didn't know what kind of...

Parallel Parenting: 11 Types of Boundaries

As the author of the book You Can't Co-Parent With a Narcissist: A Guide to Parallel Parenting, I have explored the intricate dynamics of parallel parenting, a valuable approach for separated or divorced parents facing high-conflict situations. Parallel parenting...

How to Handle Violated Boundaries When Co-Parenting

As someone who has delved deeply into the complexities of co-parenting and wrote a book on parallel parenting, I understand that maintaining clear boundaries is pivotal for the well-being of both parents and children. Co-parenting after a separation can be...

Conflicted Co-Parenting: Why Setting Boundaries is Important

Are you struggling to establish boundaries with your ex while co-parenting? If your ex is narcissistic, or a huge asshole, then they probably overstep your boundaries on purpose just to exert control and piss you off. When I wrote the first edition of my book, one...

How to Implement a Parallel Parenting Plan

Co-parenting after a separation or divorce can be one of life's most intricate balancing acts, often entailing a myriad of emotions, logistics, and considerations. For those of us who have embarked on this journey with a particularly challenging ex-partner, the...

Conflicted Co-Parenting: Creating a Parallel Parenting Plan

Divorce and separation can cause some real challenges, especially when there are children involved. High emotions and bad feelings can lead to conflict or differences in parenting styles. Whether that's all temporary or your ex purposely makes things difficult, there...

How to Set Up a Parallel Parenting Plan

Divorce or separation can be a tumultuous journey, especially when children are involved As you navigate this challenging path, it's crucial to find a co-parenting arrangement that not only supports your children's well-being but also minimizes the potential for...

Conflicted Co-Parenting: Different Parenting Styles

Co-parenting, the journey of raising a child together after a separation or divorce, is a remarkable chance for children to receive the love and support of both parents. As someone who has personally dealt with co-parenting conflicts, I understand the emotional...

How to Make an Effective Co-Parenting Agreement

Co-parenting can be a challenging journey, but having a well-crafted co-parenting agreement can help ease the process and foster a positive environment for both parents and children. As someone who has experienced the ups and downs of co-parenting, I understand the...

How to Be a Single Mom: 9 Tips for Thriving in Parenthood

Are you wondering how to be a single mom? There's no shame in asking the question! Even though we follow our instincts, sometimes it's nice to have some advice to make sure we're on the right track. Being a single mom takes a ton of strength, resilience, and an...

How Domestic Abuse Affects the Brain & How You Can Heal

Having personally experienced the pain and devastation of domestic abuse in the form of emotional and mental manipulation, I understand the profound impact it can have on individuals. If you're currently wondering, "What is domestic abuse?" and questioning whether you...

Healthy Boundaries: Your Child and Their Toxic Parent

As a co-parent who has experienced the challenges of dealing with a toxic co-parent, I understand the importance of empowering children to set healthy boundaries within their family dynamic. Establishing boundaries is crucial for children's emotional well-being,...

Parallel Parenting in the Summer

The summer season brings warmth, sunshine, and a break from school for children. For co-parents, it also means navigating the challenges of creating a seamless summer custody schedule while ensuring a positive and enjoyable experience for their children. Is your ex...

How to Talk To Your Child About Their Toxic Parent

Are you unsure how to talk to your child about their toxic parent? How exactly do you go about explaining narcissism to a child? It's tough because, on the one hand, you want to be honest with your child, but on the other hand, you don't want to bad mouth your ex....

Measuring Mom Success: 10 Signs You’re a Good Mom

Ugh, motherhood, am I right? How many times a day do you feel guilty about not being a "good enough" mom? With social media, friends, family, and even strangers trying to tell us how to do our jobs, figuring out how to be a good mom can be confusing and frustrating....

How to Parallel Parent and Raise Resilient Kids

I think one of the most amazing side effects (so to speak) of parallel parenting is the opportunity to raise resilient kids. Think about it this way: As you are struggling to find a more cohesive way to deal with a difficult or narcissistic ex, you are becoming...

Co-Parenting Versus Parallel Parenting: What You Need to Know

Divorce and separation can be tough on everyone, especially children. When parents separate, it can be challenging to navigate co-parenting, especially if one of the parents is a narcissist. In some cases, co-parenting isn't possible due to high levels of conflict and...

The 6 Stages of Healing From Emotional Abuse in a Relationship

What are the stages of emotional abuse recovery? Healing from a toxic relationship can be a difficult and painful journey, especially when the abuse is emotional in nature. I know this from my own firsthand experience with emotional abuse recovery and how it can leave...

How to Communicate in a Parallel Parenting Arrangement

Are you having a hard time communicating with your ex while trying to parallel parent your children? This can be frustrating and make it hard for you to co-parent effectively, especially if you are trying to co-parent with a narcissist or just a difficult ex. You may...

When a Narcissist Calls You Toxic: 8 Ways to Deal

Narcissists are masters of projection: They project their own faults onto other people. This can be incredibly frustrating - especially when you realize that this person doesn't truly care about your feelings or well-being and is just trying to justify their own bad...

6 Tips for Explaining Narcissism to a Child

It's never easy to explain the complexities of human behavior to a child, especially when that behavior affects the way you parent. But if you can get past any possible shame you might feel about having a narcissist in your life or family, there are several ways in...

6 Movies That Nail Narcissism

I am a huge movie buff, and I love the fact that you can learn so much through movies. When it comes to understanding narcissism, sometimes it can be difficult to comprehend what you're reading. Sure, I can explain what narcissism is, but can you picture what I'm...

How to Spot a Narcissist From a Mile Away

Narcissists are everywhere, and they have a way of ruining everyone's day! They can be found in every industry, class, gender, and race, and chances are that someone you know is a narcissist. In fact, there's a good chance that you might be dealing with one right now!...

How to Deal With Victim Shaming & Victim Blaming

Recently, there has been a whole slew of Facebook groups popping up where women can warn other women about abusive men. At first, following the drama was fun - but then I started seeing stories so similar to my own that it made my heart break. And then the victim...

How to Handle Parenting Plan Sabotage

Is your co-parent sabotaging your parenting time? Are they consistently manipulating the parenting plan? Having a parenting plan is great for co-parents who want to get along for the sake of their child. Drawing from my experience and insights shared in my book about...

8 Books About Parallel Parenting You Need to Read

Do you want to learn more about parallel parenting with a narcissist? Are you confused about the difference between parallel parenting and co-parenting? I love writing for this blog and providing you with as much information as I can on parallel parenting, toxic...

Can I Protect My Child From Their Toxic Narcissistic Parent?

In the animal world, if another animal tries to mess with a mother's young, she'll kill them. In the human world, it's a bit more difficult for parents to protect their children from a toxic co-parent. With court orders and parental rights, one parent can't simply...

Trauma Bonding Signs (And How to Break a Trauma Bond)

As I have been writing more and more about narcissists and emotional abuse, I started to come across the term "trauma bonding." I was fascinated to learn that narcissists and toxic abusers can take manipulation and control to a whole new level! Not that I was...

Mom Burnout and Overwhelm – 10 Tips to Help You Cope

Hey, tired moms! Are you tired of dealing with mom overwhelm? Tell me if this sounds familiar: As a mother, you spend your days trying to take care of everything and everyone. You feel like your entire being has been spread too thin. The only thing that comes close to...

Co-Parenting Struggles: How to Support Your Children

Co-parenting is the ideal situation when it comes to raising your child with your ex. However, it's not without its challenges! Co-parenting can be particularly challenging when your ex is toxic or narcissistic and purposely makes the situation difficult. When they do...

Narcissistic Parental Alienation: What Can You Do?

When it comes to parenting with a narcissistic ex, your child can, unfortunately, get thrown into the middle of the conflict. Sometimes, one parent will use the child by turning them against the other parent. In extreme cases, this is called "parental alienation" and...

How Does Toxic Parenting Affect Children?

Parents are not perfect. We are human beings too! Good parents are those with the best intentions for their children, even if they make mistakes along the way. Overall, a good parent wants to do better, improve, and make things right for their child. Toxic parents, on...

6 Conflicted Co-Parenting Challenges (And How to Deal With Them)

Are you dealing with conflicted co-parenting? Is your ex making it difficult while you are trying to parent your child? Unfortunately, it seems like this is a common issue nowadays, but don’t worry! As difficult as your toxic co-parent may be, there are ways you can...

Are They Toxic or Narcissistic? Do Labels Really Matter?

When I decided to focus this blog on dealing with narcissists, I assumed that we could simply slap the label "narcissist" on anyone who treated us poorly and made our lives difficult. While learning about narcissism certainly helped me in my situation, I came to...

How to Support Your Child When They Have a Toxic Parent

I know how hard it can be to deal with a toxic ex, especially when you're a parent. But while taking care of yourself and healing from the abuse is important, we can't forget that our children are affected by the situation as well. It's a tough situation for kids....

Single Moms

How to Be a Good Single Mom

Are you worried about being a good single mom? Being a single mom is hard. Even if you have a co-parent, you are the only person in your home responsible for your kiddo. That can definitely be overwhelming. Throughout my daughter’s life, I’ve had little to no support...

Do Narcissists Target Single Moms?

Dating as a single mom is fucking hard. Not only do we have to figure out how to get out there and meet people, then we have to worry about the type of people we’re letting in. And if you’ve ever been in a relationship with a narcissist, that adds a layer of fear to...

Dating as a Single Mom (When Your Co-Parent is Crazy)

As a single mom, it’s hard enough to meet new people and get yourself into a dating situation. Then your narcissistic ex has to come along and mess it all up. I remember being terrified of dating in my early days of co-parenting. As much as I wanted to get out there...

Co-Parenting Self-Care: 8 Tips to Manage Stress and Chaos

No co-parenting situation is perfect, but when you’re dealing with an ex who is particularly difficult, it’s hard to avoid the co-parenting stress. I’ve been through the emotional toil and chaos of trying to co-parent with a narcissist while also trying to be a good...

How Can Single Moms Manage Emotional Triggers in Co-Parenting?

Are you struggling to manage emotional triggers in co-parenting? Whether you are dealing with the leftover negative feelings after a separation or a narcissistic ex, it’s normal to experience emotional reactivity to things they say or do. (Especially if you are trying...

Single Mom Co-Parenting Support: How to Find Your Tribe

When you're struggling through the challenges of co-parenting in a difficult situation, it can be very lonely without single mom co-parenting support. I remember when I started talking about parallel parenting with narcissists on the blog, it was really just something...

Single Mom Assistance: 13 Amazing Resources in Canada

Being a single mom can be both rewarding and challenging, and while you may be juggling multiple roles, there are plenty of resources to help make your journey a little smoother. And there are many reasons why someone becomes a single mom, and all of them are valid -...

How to Be a Single Mom: 9 Tips for Thriving in Parenthood

Are you wondering how to be a single mom? There's no shame in asking the question! Even though we follow our instincts, sometimes it's nice to have some advice to make sure we're on the right track. Being a single mom takes a ton of strength, resilience, and an...

Measuring Mom Success: 10 Signs You’re a Good Mom

Ugh, motherhood, am I right? How many times a day do you feel guilty about not being a "good enough" mom? With social media, friends, family, and even strangers trying to tell us how to do our jobs, figuring out how to be a good mom can be confusing and frustrating....

Mom Burnout and Overwhelm – 10 Tips to Help You Cope

Hey, tired moms! Are you tired of dealing with mom overwhelm? Tell me if this sounds familiar: As a mother, you spend your days trying to take care of everything and everyone. You feel like your entire being has been spread too thin. The only thing that comes close to...

Finding Confidence in Single Mom Parallel Parenting

Being a single mom while parallel parenting can be incredibly challenging. It often feels like you are walking on a tightrope, trying to maintain your balance while dealing with a difficult or narcissistic co-parent. I know that the emotional toll can be overwhelming,...

Single Mom Self-Care: Is It Enough to Handle Burnout?

When you're a burnt-out mom, you will try anything to minimize the crazy in your life - and sometimes, single mom self-care isn't enough. There are not enough bubble baths in the world that will cure your anxiety or enough naps to revitalize your energy to face the...

Dealing With My Single Mom Guilt (Find Out How I Got Over It!)

There's no form of mom guilt quite like single mom guilt! It's like taking regular mom guilt and amplifying it because, as a single mother, you are especially low on time, energy, and limbs to do everything you want to for your child. Plus, you feel bad for being...

The Top 10 Mom Clichés That Are Totally True

Nobody likes being cliched, but when it comes to motherhood, we can't help but fall into certain stereotypes and mom cliches. How many times during your pregnancy did you say to yourself or someone else, "Oh, I'm not going to be THAT mom!"? Nowadays, how often do you...

How to Reduce Mom Stress by Setting Boundaries

Have you ever felt the weight of the world constantly pushing down on your mom shoulders? A mom is a woman with numerous roles to play. Between taking care of kids, a partner, a home, finances, meals, work responsibilities, and much more, it's easy to see how moms can...